Coping With Failure
In the 21st century it is becoming increasingly common for people to change jobs and careers as well as partners during the course of their lives. Changing partners, just like changing careers, can become a platform for development and progress, a chance to correct and improve failures that characterised the past. 'Chapter 2' in our lives is a chance to learn from our mistakes and past experience.
A person who was dependant and passive in their relationships and as a result felt frustration and finally divorced or separated will benefit from this experience if in their next relationships their progression will differ.
It is in our nature to repeat our mistakes – old habits die hard; we blame our partners rather than ourselves for the failed relationship and by doing so we fail to see our part in the failure and hence fail to learn from the past and often fall into the same traps once again. Our ability to truly build a new and better relationship depends on our ability to have faith in ourselves and induce change rather than expect it to happen.
Changing jobs or careers is also an opportunity for change and development. For example, you may be a hard and conscientious worker but you have trouble 'promoting' or 'marketing' yourself. Therefore, your promotion and progress at work may be inhibited while others receive promotions, often at your expense. You may even feel frustration to the point where you resign. It is important that you understand the true cause of your frustration so that in your next position you can work on improving your self-marketing skills as well as coping with 'power' struggles that naturally exist in any working environment.
To succeed in 'chapter 2', be it love or work, you must comprehend and understand the reasons behind the failure so you can improve them. Those that believe their failure at work or in a relationship was caused by others are unlikely to do better next time around. Employees that take full responsibility for their own lack of progress at work are likely to improve in their next position. People that understand that they have a true part in the failure of a relationship are likely to do better in their next one.